Let your children be who they are!

[Granny]

I was watching NHRA and I told Hubby it was my destiny to be a pit crew member working on a high performance race car.

I can't explain how I feel when the vibration from a high hp engine pulses thru my body.

He said those guys had been doing it all their lives and good luck.

I was talking about what should have happened but didn't.

When I was 13 I asked my Dad to let me take shop which at that time covered engines.
He said "No" because it wasn't lady like and sent me to home something other instead.

No matter how stupid it may be..let your children be who they are.

[onebadmollafolla]

Would you say the same for boys who want to participate in feminine activities?

[onebadmollafolla]

Would you say the same for boys who want to participate in feminine activities?

*cough* *cough*

[Granny]

*cough* *cough*

I know this has to be a loaded question!

What is your definition of "feminine activities"?

[onebadmollafolla]

I know this has to be a loaded question!

What is your definition of "feminine activities"?

Same thing you were denied of, just the opposite sex wanting to do "girly" activities like play with dolls or play kitchen or whatever kids are doing these days.

[Granny]

Letting your children "be who they are" isn't always an option. Case in point, a guy I was friends with as a child is definitely not the type of person you can just let go off to find what they like on their own. As a kid, he played video games constantly. Stayed up real late playing them, then he was always tired and falling asleep in school. His mother eventually resorted to giving him drugs to "calm him down"... This was before the days of ADHD had entered the world and which I think is a bunch of crap. He grew up and went to college, didn't change much, except now instead of Nintendo it was Playstation. His parents paid his way through school, but he never did any work... his mother would actually come down to Austin for a weekend and type up papers for him, do his homework, etc. She basically earned his degree for him. Fast forward another 15 years, he was living at home, his parents kicked him out because they couldn't stand his behavior, so now he lives downtown in an apartment that they pay for, doesn't have a job, and he continues to play video games all night and sleep all day. He's definitely a case where some strong guidance was needed, and if that didn't work, force him to do something with his life, because he never made that decision on his own.

This is just letting your children run the household.
Big difference in helping them find and pursue their interest.

Same thing you were denied of, just the opposite sex wanting to do "girly" activities like play with dolls or play kitchen or whatever kids are doing these days.

Just as long as we are not talking about cross dressing.

The guys I grew up with liked playing house but I dare say they didn't tell their friends at school either.
They all grew up to be loving productive adults.
I ran into one a few months back and he still feels like family after all these years.

Let's be honest..most men are not going to encourage their sons to do "girly" activities but hanging out with the girls will probably teach them how to communicate better with women.

[HilbillyHomeboy]

whatever kids are doing these days.

play kitchen

[J. Fast]

To a point Granny. As long as it's in the realm of reason and doesn't provoke danger.

My son's best friend paints his fingernails black and blue and wears the craziest outfits to school. It was a little strange to me at first but that's just hime and he's a great kid! I won't necessarily force my son, Roman, into anything. He may get a stiff nudge towards sports or some sort of social activity though.

[green-lantern]

My son is a violent serial killer.

[thor'svr4]

My son is a violent serial killer.

you must of been a terrible influence! Mines just in jail for stealing cars… but I blame it on Grand Theft Auto.